There are lots of self-improvement web sites and programs, you say? What’s makes Mo’BettaLife.com any different? Why pay attention to us?
First, because, yes, Mo’BettaLife.com will show you how to improve your life—how to get “Mo’ Betta.” (Of course, how you define a better life is up to you, but we know what we have to offer will help.)
Next, along the way, we will help you understand why things are so messed up. Even if you haven’t thought about it that much, applied to your life, you will be better equipped to figure out the difference between what you had no control over and what you did have control over…and still do.
So, despite how messed up things are, we will also point out the good stuff, of course—the good stuff in the world, but, more importantly, the good stuff in who you are and what you’ve been doing.
Personal growth, self-development, and improving your life—that’s just one half of our mission. We believe we all need to keep growing and developing in order for the world to change for the better. Therefore, let’s focus on helping each other and as many people as possible!
In fact, we think they’re two sides of the same coin. (If you want to get technical, the “Agency & Communion” coin, among other names.) One feeds the other. Energy focused on only one side will not get us the change we seek in either.
Mo’Betta Life.com is for you if:
- You now figure that treading water for the rest of your life is worse than trying something and failing.
- You’re sick and tired of reading all those “How to be Happy” lists, but you’re also sick and tired of your own cynicism. In other words, you’ve often had the feeling that there’s no point to trying, that nobody gives a rip, anyway…but you don’t want to stay stuck there.
- You want that sense of being powerful and important back…or you’d like to have it for the first time in your life!
- You don’t think being effective and having personal power should take away from others getting mo’ betta; in fact, you want to believe that getting ahead in your life will help others do the same!
- You’re tired of professionals like doctors talking down to you or not really listening to you; it often seems to you as though they want to pin you down and make sure you fit into some narrow category.
- You’re learning to trust that being addicted to familiarity and predictability in life not only just gets you more of the same but leads to falling behind, and you’re starting to become more attracted to making some bold moves to leap ahead. In other words, the idea of living in “permanent whitewater” or “falling down the well with eyes wide open” seems like it’s worth a shot. But, like us, you’ve been scared off from all that more than you’d like to admit.
- You think the world is really messed up and you think we’re running out of time to change it.
- You don’t want to be full of regrets at the end of your life.
Make no mistake: there are plenty of people and web sites who offer great, comprehensive self-help and tips for self-development.
There are also many wonderful political and activist organizations and web sites to help you contribute to making the world a better place.
But we uniquely combine expertise in human development with a passionate commitment to social change.
The late, great anti-war and social justice activist, Father Daniel Berrigan, once spoke of this difficult combination:
We’re trying to discover what it means to be a human being in an inhuman time.
He also said,
Make the connections between all the issues as activists and uncover the spiritual roots of our work for peace and justice.
So, let’s help each other keep the work going—work that doesn’t fragment our lives so completely between the personal and political. That doesn’t apologize for focusing either inward or outward in an effort to balance the two.
One of Dan Kerrigan’s friends, Father John Dear, once asked him, “You’re the hero for so many people. Who are your heroes?” He replied, “I don’t believe in heroes, I believe in community.”
There it is—we couldn’t have said it better!
Mo’Betta Life.com is for people who have read this far and, despite not knowing exactly what to expect, are intrigued and excited by what they are feeling as they read, by what’s been said so far…they’re inspired not so much by the pointing finger, but what the finger is pointing to…(to paraphrase a well-known Zen saying).
Mo’Betta Life.com is a place where, instead of being just passive recipients of information and advice, readers also create it and offer others help.
Mo’Betta Life.com is not a cookie cutter approach devoid of enthusiasm. Mo’Betta Life.com is responsive and ready…champing at the bit to get going. (Or is that “chomping”?! 😉 )
Mo’Betta Life.com is not afraid to take risks or go out on the edge. Mo’Betta Life.com isn’t scared of having an opinion, isn’t shy about preaching once in a while, doesn’t apologize for taking a stand.
Mo’Betta Life.com is run by two guys with some life experience, credentials, and strong opinions, but who also admit they are still making it up as they go along. (Improvisation and change doesn’t scare us as much anymore as it used to, and we invite you to join us—we’ll ALL be making it up as we go along!)
So, on the one hand, Mo’Betta Life.com as a concept and a landing place and as tangible products of our imaginations isn’t set in stone; on the other hand, it won’t lose it’s core. If you like what you’ve read about the foundation of Mo’Betta Life.com so far, you won’t be surprised by future changes in its upper floors. Not only that, you’ll discover that identifying with Mo’Betta Life.com goes beyond what you see here and you can take it to whatever you might be doing now or in the future whether in art, business, social service, parenting and family life, spirituality, science, political activism…you name it.
Mo’BettaLife.com is a cool place to find what you’re looking for…but we need your help to make that happen.
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Consultant and counselor Jeffrey M. Phillips has been working with young people from diverse backgrounds for over 20 years in schools, community organizations, hospitals, and mental health and substance abuse treatment facilities. He has also worked with youth in corrections and youth ministries, as well as out-reach in the streets. In West Palm Beach, Florida, Jeffrey worked for Drug Abuse Treatment Association as a Prevention Specialist, with Treatment Alternatives to Street Crime. Also in Florida he worked with Juvenile Services Program, as Program Director for a boy’s residential shelter.
In Los Angeles California, Jeffrey worked in two well-known treatment facilities; Daniel Freeman’s Hospital, (Exodus) in Marina Del Rey, and Promises treatment facility in West Los Angeles.
Minnesota is where Jeffrey enjoyed some of his greatest professional accomplishments: he was part of both the St. Paul and Minneapolis public school systems where he received numerous acknowledgments for his service. He was a member of the Minneapolis Public Schools Drug Advisory Counsel, the Minnesota State Youth Advisory Council, and served as a member of the Minnesota Governors Hate Crime Initiative.
Also in Minnesota, Jeffrey worked at the nationally known African American Family Services (formally known as Institute on Black Chemical Abuse) as a Prevention Specialist, lecturing and doing seminars in schools and the community. He spent several years working in a hospital setting at Fairview University Medical Center in Child and Adolescent Behavioral Services where he received accolades for his outstanding service to clients and families. He was a counselor at the Academy of Holy Angels, a Catholic high school in Richfield, Minnesota. He co-created a violence prevention program he helped introduce to Boys Totem Town in St. Paul, part of Ramsey County Juvenile Corrections.
Jeffrey loves to serve others in the community in whatever capacity made available. Jeffrey’s professional persona is unique in its combination of inspiration and authenticity. Troubled clients have difficulty maintaining their habitual aloofness and distrust as he outlines new directions and possibilities available to them. Where so many professionals end their efforts to reach people who seem hard to assist because of their behavior, Jeffrey is just getting started and never stops identifying strengths and opportunities in what each person presents to him. Jeffrey is very sensitive to the needs and perspectives of a wide variety of people and cultures. He bridges the gaps that divide people with ease and builds rapport quickly and effortlessly. He thrives on collaborative approaches to problem solving and challenges groups and individuals to do their best work. He helps others enjoy the work in front of them and the challenges he gives them with warmth and a great sense of humor. What may appear to be casual and ordinary to the uninitiated often involves a carefully conceived use of his personality to build a bridge of trust along with focused attention to how and where seeds of hope can be planted.
Originally from Greenwich, Connecticut, he went to Bard College in Upstate New York and earned a Bachelor’s of Arts Degree in Theater. He now enjoys life in sunny Florida with his life partner, JoAnn. He is the father of two teenagers who keep him busy. His oldest son, Skye, passed away unexpectedly at age 19.
Psychologist Martin (Marty) Schoen has been working in the mental health field for 34 years, and is currently in private practice in the Twin Cities, Minnesota. Unlike most psychologists & psychotherapists, he makes house calls. For the past 16 years, he has been visiting clients in their homes exclusively (including group homes, foster homes, assisted living facilities, hospitals, nursing care facilities, jails, etc.). Except for rush hour, snow storms, and construction zones, he enjoys traveling around the metropolitan area and being on his clients’ “turf” instead of sitting in an office all day.
Marty effectively and quickly establishes rapport and a bond with a wide variety of clients who are referred to him from multiple sources. He is relentless in his optimism and his belief that anyone can improve their life and situation. He assists his clients in identifying their strengths and their resources and how they can be applied to their problems and concerns. Instead of the DSM diagnosis-driven, cookie-cutter approach so often found in mental health, psychotherapy and counseling, he assists clients develop a course of treatment as unique as they are.
Marty brings an integrated, holistic, and systemic perspective to his work and philosophy of life. Never satisfied to be limited to just the field of psychology, he integrates philosophy, culture, spirituality, as well as mind-body perspectives and approaches to assess what is going on in a client’s life (and, indeed, the world at large) and how to best be of service. He often assists clients understand the greater social and political forces in our society that have and are still affecting their lives.
Marty has worked in hospital settings, mental health outpatient clinics, and in a human resource consulting firm performing leadership and management assessments, training, and coaching. His private practice web site can be found here. He currently resides in the Twin Cities with his wife, 3 adult children and his grandson, as well as two rambunctious Labrador retrievers. He is a musician and relieves stress in his basement home studio playing keyboards, guitar, and drums.
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